Teaching Your Baby to Play with Toys
All babies go through a sequence of learning to play. The first thing an infant usually does with a toy is bring it to his mouth—he's already had the pleasure of sucking on a nipple and getting milk from it, so maybe the toy will taste good too! While sighted babies frequently continue to suck or chew on objects, they have the advantage of knowing something is available and will reach for it because it looks appealing. But if your baby can't see a toy, he may not know to reach for it unless you make him aware of what it is and where he can find it.
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If your baby hasn't started playing with toys the way other children his age do, the reason may be that he can't see them clearly and doesn't know what to do with them because he may not understand how they work. That could be why your 11-month-old hasn't yet tried to turn the knobs on his busy box and waits for you to do it. Or perhaps your toddler is still putting his toy cars in his mouth at age two while other two-year-olds are pretending to drive their toy cars. Here are some tactics you might try to help your baby or toddler learn to enjoy toys and play independently.
Helping Your Child Learn How to Play
- Help your child become aware of the toys he has by giving him plenty of time to explore them and by helping him find them. Handing him a toy and explaining what it is while guiding his fingers to find it, can be a helpful introduction. Try to get him toys that make sounds, and let him hear the noise, which will tell your baby where the toy is located. By holding a toy while calling him to move or turn toward it, you can also help him learn to find and reach for other things he wants.
- When you introduce your baby to a toy, describe it—with words and touch. Sit behind him and, using either the hand-under-hand or hand-over-hand approach, let him feel the toy while you demonstrate how to play with it. When you sit behind your baby, your hands are moving in the same direction as his, which makes the teaching process more natural for both of you. Hand-under-hand, in which you place your hand under his, may be more reassuring to your baby because you're the one reaching out to touch something unfamiliar, while his hands are "riding along" on the safety of your hands.
- Objects from the kitchen cabinet can be as entertaining as store-bought toys. For example, you can show and tell your baby how to make noise with pot covers. With his hands on the covers and your hands over his, you can tell him, "Let's make a banging noise with these pot covers. We'll bang them together like this," as you guide his hands toward each other. After the two of you get tired of banging, you can also take a quieter step forward by showing him how to put the lids on top of the pots, again explaining what the two of you are doing, "These are pots that I cook your lunch in. Let's put the covers back on the pots."
- Watch how other babies play. If a friend or family member has a sighted child about the same age as your child, it might be helpful to watch how that baby plays with toys. You could then imitate what you see that baby doing with your baby to show him things he can do.
- Another helpful tactic to use when your child is playing nearby is to describe what he's doing and suggest expanding that activity. For instance, you might say, "Marco, you've pulled all the cars out of the bucket—now let me see you put them back in the bucket." Or, "How about rolling the big car over to me?"
- When you put a toy in your child's crib or playpen, make sure he knows it's there. Let him feel it and leave it within easy reach.
- Before your baby can sit on his own, consider lining a laundry basket or box with a soft towel or blanket and putting him and some toys in it. This will give him a comfortable, confined space that will keep the toys close to him. At the same time, he can lean against the side of the basket or box to support him in a sitting position.
- Because your baby may not see where a toy goes when he drops it, consider using a play gym where toys hang down for him to feel. Toys that have a suction cup on the bottom are also useful because they can be put on a surface, such as a tray or table, and will stay put.
- When your child is old enough to crawl or walk, coax him to come and get a toy by letting him know you have it and calling to him from another part of the room.
- By the time your child is walking, try putting his toys in a big basket or box that he can rummage through to find his current favorite. Just be sure the basket or box is always in the same place.